lørdag 11. september 2010

while we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil.

 
I natt døde en gutt jeg gikk på skolen sammen med etter en brann i campingvogna deres. Rune-Andre het han. Han var 34 år og etterlot seg forlovede og fire barn. Barna ble redded fra campingvogna etter en heltemodig innsats av en forbipasserende. Hunden hans døde sammen med han. Dagen dette skjedde oppdaterte han statusen sin på facebook:

" skal ta me sæ den minste gutten å den største pia å fer i vogna, kanskje man e såpass heldig me veret at d går an å fyr opp bål å fortell litt spøkelses historia når d mørknes :) "

Da jeg fikk vite om det som har skjedd tenkte jeg 'another one bites the dust'. Og at det må da vel for faen begynne å bli nok av kjentfolk på andre siden av sløret snart?

Der sitter bestefar Erling i snekkerboden og lager fine klokker så folk kan holde styr på evigheten. Der lager pappa hus som ikke rommer noen kropper men mye sjel. Der finner du tante Signe som ga meg navnet mitt og bestemor Hjørdis med det lange sorte håret sitt som rekker henne helt til midjen. Der sitter Rune-Andre og Kjetil å snakker om gamle kjente. Der finner du Irene som lager kjøttkaker til alle som er sultne og Inge-Marius med det store smilet som smitter. Lille Frida som vi mistet allerede før vi fikk bli kjent med henne. Og der finner du Anders med de myke hendene og de gnistrende øynene. Herregud, jeg kan ikke tro at det har gått over et år siden du dro! Jeg ser deg enda overalt! Skoene dine på en forbipasserende, ryggen din foran meg på gata, ansiktet ditt mot ruta på 37 bussen fra stortorget. Kunne du vært så snill og tatt en prat med whoever is in charge og si at jeg ikke har flere å miste? Det er snart like mange på din side av sløret som her...


 Last night a friend of mine from school died in his sleep when their caravan caught on fire. His children were saved after an heroic act from a passerby. His dog died with him. He was 34 years old and left his fiancé and 4 children behind. The same day as he died he updated his facebook status:

 
' going to take my youngest boy and my oldest girl out camping today, maybe if we are lucky we get some nice weather so we can sit outside in the dark and tell ghost stories by the fire :) '
 

And so another one bites the dust. And with that another person I know is joining the ones that is already at the other side of the veil.

Over there you can find my grandfather Erling in his workshop crafting his clocks so people can keep track of eternity. My father is building his houses still. They are no longer holding any bodies but a lot of soul. You can find my aunt Signe that gave me her name and my grandmother with her long raven black hair that goes all the way down to her waist. You can find Kjetil and Rune-Andre catching up and talking about old friends. You can find Irene  cooking dinner for everyone that is hungry and you can shake hands with Inge-Marius with the big smile. There is little Frida that we lost before we even got to know her. And you can find Anders with the soft hands and the sparkling eyes. God, I can't believe it has been a whole year now since you left! I still see you everywhere. I see your shoes on people passing by. I see your back in front of me on the street. I see your face against the window as the 37 bus drives away from stortorget. Could you be so kind to have a word with whoever is in charge and say that I have no one else I can afford to lose? There are soon more of you on that side of the veil than there is on this one...

Pictures: WeHeartIt

35 kommentarer:

  1. I am so sorry to hear about your friend and all the others you have lost. You are a very strong person.

    I lost my grandparents, many family and friends, neighbours, and I lost my father 13 years ago.

    One day you will be reunited with them all.

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  2. You are such a kind, sweet girl. This post gave me goosebumps. Everything about it.

    Sometimes, I think I hear my Nana laughing when I go to her old house, only when I turn around.. And I swear people are wearing her crazy obnoxious jewelry..

    Love,
    Amber Rose.

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  3. you are so kind spirited, sorry to hear about your friend :( and I agree with you, I like bodyshop but none of their face stuff ever works for me

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  4. He was not a close friend of mine so I am fine, thinking more of his poor family right now!
    But it is always something heartbreaking about it when young people pass away and it just brought back a lot of memories from when one of my best friends died last July. And yet another one died in a car crash just a few months back.
    Enough already...

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  5. So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I understand your feeling about not wanting to lose anyone else.

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  6. Thats so awful that someone choose to take the life of an innocent man enjoying his time with his children, building memories that they were supposed remember as a good time in their life but someone decided they had the right to steal all that and end a persons life.

    Like everyone I know what its like to lose so many family members, since turning 20 I've had 1-3 people die every year for the last 9 years, many visits to the hospital that every year now I just think whose next! One thing for sure though is that you will never ever forget those people for all the good and bad times as memories are there to stay.

    A huge hug from me

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  7. Bubbles: No one knows what happened yet and why the caravan caught on fire, but they suspect it was an accident of some sort and not done intentional. But indeed, imagine the poor children that had to experience that...

    And I'm very sorry to hear about all the loved ones you guys have lost as well, I guess it never ends and all one can do is learn to cope with it.

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  8. My momma used to tell us that she chatted with her grandmother; when I was a kid, I thought that frankly she was a little nuts. Now that I'm older, I feel the presence of all those souls in my life, whether or not I can see or touch them.

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  9. Oh my, I am so very sorry

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  10. that facebook update is so eerie. i am so sorry for your many losses. i have a few myself, and feel your pain.

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  11. Wow...I'm so so sorry to hear that.

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  12. I am so sorry you have lost dear friends. I lost my father 5 years ago... I can feel his presence in difficult times. I dream about him when I am sad. and I miss him terribly.

    I always think about why young people have to die??? It just isn't fair.

    Unfortunately, it's part of life.... and it's terrible.

    Thinking about you...

    xoxo

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  13. Signe, I'm terribly sorry to hear about your friend. What a sad thing to happen, especially with a family depending on him. There can never be any explanations for such horrible accidents. May his family and you find strength in each other.

    xoxo

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  14. Signe, this is such a beautiful piece of writing, made me think of all the family members and friends that are gone, and it made my heart smile. Thank you.

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  15. So sorry for your loss, that is incredibly sad, but your words are beautiful!

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  16. Having just lost a friend myself I know how you're feeling. So so so sorry for your loss.

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  17. I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts. *hugs*

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  18. Signe, I'm so sorry for your loss, and losses. I know from losing many of my beloveds at a very young age in what seemed like such a quick succession, how each new loss brings us to mourning previous losses (often the person most important to us).

    I hope you're able to be with yourself, patiently in these times, cry when you need + want to, and hug those around you.


    Sending you lots of love and light.

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  19. So sorry to read this. Lovely tribute to a friend, and lost ones.

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  20. Så fint du skriv om de vi ha mista, æ såg de for mæ alle sammen når æ leste :) Det va fælt med den vogna, hørte om det på radioen. Og tenk han mann som bare tilfeldig snudde og kom tebake å berga ungan, - æ tenke det e ei mor som e glad i han i dag, tross alt.... huff, vi veit ikje dagen og får vær glad før alle dagan vi har. Gla i dæ,pus :)

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  21. Ja tenk mamma han kjørte førbi og tenkte at det va bære nån som brant bål, men så syns han det va litt vel stort og snudde og kjørte telbake! Stakkars familien, e ikkje greit når så unge folk går heden! Gla i dæ åsså :)

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  22. I am so sorry for you loss.

    I came across your blog today and I think it is beautiful.

    Ellie Rose

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  23. your post made me cry a bit, i am so sorry for your loss. i know how you feel, i just am not as brave as you to put it in to words on my blog.

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  24. I'm so sorry on behalf of all this, and for this person's family as well. What you wrote here was all very touching and close to heart. I suppose it takes plenty of strength to pull us through things like this, and the realization that despite all the pain in the world, there is so much beauty that we can't let ourselves forget.

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  25. Oh Signe, this is such a heartbreaking but beautiful post and tribute. I am so sorry for this poor man and his family. I was so touched to read this - I lost someone dear to me recently too, and love the way you talk about those we've left behind (but never forget).

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  26. Sorry to hear about your friend. So sad. A lovely tribute though.

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  27. Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry to hear this tragic news. Prayers go out to his family.

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  28. My heart goes out to his family and to you for your own losses over the years.

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  29. This was beautiful. And tragic.

    There was a loss close to us last week...this hit me just right.

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  30. Oh S.
    I am sorry.

    Your words are beautiful- amazing tribute.

    The veil- I like that.

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  31. Ohhh,sweetie...I am so sorry...That is such a beautiful post-tribute.
    Kisses my dear

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  32. ohhh dreamy pics! Love love love!
    xo tash

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  33. I'm so very sorry for your loss and for his family. How horribly tragic yet you capture your love for them so beautifully. Hugs to you.

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  34. Oh my God that is so sad, I am really sorry to hear that. I'm glad the children are ok but still.

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  35. wow lady...i'm so sorry about your friends. that is incredibly tragic and obviously words are just useless for this :( and this post was so moving.

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